Here’s Why Dating an Introvert is Hard Sometimes (5 Reasons)

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 If you’ve ever been in a relationship with an introvert, then chances are that at some point you felt like you were living on the edge of a volcano. Introverts can be wonderful partners and lovers but sometimes being with an introvert in a relationship may be hard if they’re not properly understood.

Here’s why dating an introvert can be hard sometimes.

5 Reasons Why Introverts Can Be Hard To Date

1- introverts tend to withdraw sometimes

Introverts tend to withdraw from people and activities which means there’ll always be times when they won’t want to interact with anyone for hours or days on end  -This doesn’t mean that they don’t care about their partner though – it just means that this is how they recharge themselves so their batteries will last long enough for them to enjoy time spent together. 

Outsiders may think introverts are snobs or anti-social but this is not the case – what introverts need to feel happy and complete is time spent alone – no amount of socializing can ever make up for that. 

2- introverts tend to be secretive

Introverts are naturally mysterious and they can’t help but keep things close to their chest. This is because introverts need absolute privacy in order to reveal themselves – trust us, if you get an introvert to open up, you’ll know it’s because they really care about you.

Now if they don’t open up at the beginning of your relationship together, just know that it’s completely normal and they’re just not ready yet, so be patient and give them the time they need.

3- introverts don’t like social events

If you and your introvert spend a lot of time together then it might seem like everything’s alright – but if your introvert starts avoiding social gatherings for no reason, there may be something else going on.

For introverts, social gatherings and parties can be exhausting and overwhelming for them so they’d rather spend their free time in a more comfortable environment – usually at home with their significant other.

So if your introvert suddenly starts hiding from you when someone suggests that you all go out, then know that it’s nothing personal, they just need their down time.

4- introverts may not be the ones who initiate things in a relationship

Since introverts aren’t very social and they don’t like public display of affection, your introvert partner might not be the one to start intimacy with you, I know it hurts sometimes to be the one who initiates intimacy but that’s just the way introverts are – a little more understanding and a lot less pressure from your side will help you both overcome this obstacle.

5-  introverts tend to keep their feelings to themselves

This is probably the hardest thing about dating introverts – they don’t like sharing with others what’s going on in their hearts. They’re very private about their emotions and this can be very frustrating for some introvert-lovers who want emotional intimacy.

But once again, you shouldn’t take it personally – introverts simply process emotions very deeply and they need to be alone most of the time in order to make sure that everything’s alright with them.

Don’t push your introvert partner into opening up about their feelings, give them time and space – they will come around eventually.

when that happens, force them to communicate. Not allowing them to slip back into their shell is key for successful relationships.


Dating an introvert isn’t as hard as it may seem at first because once you understand their behavior pattern, everything becomes easier. Introverts can make wonderful partners as long as you don’t give up on them. Give them your love and time and they will show you the same.

I  hope the aforementioned tips help you understand your introvert better – good luck!

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Sarra is a behavioral science student and HS science teacher ( also a cat mom! ) who obsesses over typing people but can't seem to type her own self. Let's just say that for the time being, she's a cross between an INFJ and INFP!

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