Too Introverted For a Relationship? Don’t worry, we Got You!(5 step guide)

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You get dating advice all the time; how to text him, what to say on your date, etc.

What you don’t often get dating advice for is how to handle being too introverted for a relationship.

People sometimes find dating an introvert hard because we can be a bit extreme with our introverted temperament.

We too have a hard time dating extroverts because they don’t understand our need for ‘down time‘ and because we can’t always keep up with their non-stop lifestyle.

However, Being too introverted doesn’t mean you can’t find a relationship, it just means you have to date someone who understands your needs and works with you on meeting them.

So if see yourself as too introverted, here’s our guide on how to be in a relationship :

5 steps to help you handle being too introverted in a relationship

Step one: Prepare yourself mentally for the dating process

Thinking you’re too introverted for dating can bring up a lot of your fears and insecurities. That’s why preparing yourself before you even start dating is important.

One way to do that would be to read books on dating advice or visit dating support groups where you can interact with other people who are going through what you’re going through and who can support you in your dating journey.

If you feel like you need more help than that, seek out dating coaches or dating therapists where they can help you get used to dating and overcome your fears if necessary.


Step two: Find a dating partner who also understands introversion

It’s crucial to look for someone who understands your dating needs and wants the dating process to go as smoothly as possible

Someone who understands introversion can not only make dating easier for you but they’ll also be able to understand when they need to take a step back from their relationship demands.

So how do you find someone like that? You have to search for them!

There are a lot of places and activities where you can find a partner as an introvert, such as introvert dating websites or dating apps, Family and friends’ gatherings, and volunteering!

It may take a little bit of trial and error but once you find someone who can help you feel comfortable during the dating process, everything will go much smoother.

Step three: Don’t give up if things get tough

Even when dating an understanding partner, It won’t always be  roses and sunshine; there can be a lot of ups and downs when dating as an introvert.

Even if you feel like giving up, don’t! if your first date didn’t go well, it’s not the end of the world.

You guys don’t have to date for years, you can take it slow if you want. Just give yourself time and space to feel comfortable in your new relationship.

If you see your partner’s personality changing or controlling, that’s when it’s time to rethink the relationship.

Remember that you’re still an introvert;  you don’t have to date someone who doesn’t understand your needs or who wants to control you.

You’re not obligated to date someone who’ll make you feel bad about yourself. There’s someone out there who’ll make the best partner for you, so keep on looking till you find them.

Step four: Take some time apart if necessary

Dating an introvert isn’t always easy but neither is dating an extrovert. You can be too introverted for a relationship but that doesn’t mean you need to end the relationship.

Maybe both of you need some time apart and space from each other to be able to appreciate your partner again, or maybe it’s one of you who needs a break; either way, take all the time you need!

Remember that relationships aren’t always easy and everyone has their flaws, but that doesn’t mean that you have to end the relationship.

Even if things are looking tough right now, don’t give up!

If you believe you’ve found the one, and you believe in your partner and in yourself, know that everything will work out for the best.

Step five: Always be open with your partner

No matter what, communication is the most important part of any relationship.

If you’re too introverted to date, or if your partner is, that doesn’t mean that the only way you can communicate with each other is through texting on your phones!

Every once in a while make time for an actual conversational date night. Take the time to talk about what makes you feel loved, what makes you feel appreciated, and don’t be afraid to say no if your partner’s demands are too much for you.

Be open about how your boundaries are being pushed if they were.

There are a lot of ways to communicate where your partner can’t interrupt you, so take advantage!


Use this guide if you need help getting back into dating or starting it for the first time.

Remember that everyone has their flaws and that’s okay; find someone who understands your needs as an introvert and take it slow!

Good luck on your dating journey dear introvert, and remember: WE GOT YOU!

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Sarra is a behavioral science student and HS science teacher ( also a cat mom! ) who obsesses over typing people but can't seem to type her own self. Let's just say that for the time being, she's a cross between an INFJ and INFP!

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