8 Things to Improve Your introvert-extrovert relationship Communication!

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The first step to improving your relationship is understanding what makes it difficult.

Relationships can be difficult for a variety of reasons, but there are always ways to improve the situation. That’s why today we’re going to talk about how you and your partner can make communication work in your  relationship.

First, let’s go over some introverted characteristics: introverts need time alone because they recharge their energy by being away from people for a while.

They also often prefer one-on-one conversations so that they don’t feel overwhelmed or like the center of attention; and finally, many find it easier to express themselves on paper than face-to-face so if you want them to open up, try writing them a note.

Now that we know these characteristics, let’s take a look at how you can make your relationship work.

6 Things to Make Communication in an introvert-extrovert relationship work!

1. pick the right time to have a serious talk

Introverts need quiet time alone to recharge their batteries so it’s best to wait until they are free from distractions before having a serious talk. Make sure to give them enough time to prepare for a serious conversation.

The same thing applies to an extroverted partner, It’s unfair to assume just because they’re extroverted they don’t need time to themselves. If you have something serious to discuss with them, it’s best to give them the room they need before you start.

You can set a daily date and time on your calendar to talk about important things every day, even if you just say: “How was your day?” or “What do you want to eat tonight?”. that simple question will force you both to take some time for each other.

This will also help with making sure small issues don’t turn into larger ones as they’re given an outlet through which they can be brought up and plainly addressed.

2. Don’t send complicated texts or emails

If you’re finding it more difficult than usual to express yourself verbally, try writing things down instead of talking them through.

Introverts might find it more difficult to communicate verbally, so if you want to make sure they understand what you’re trying to say, write them an email or text.

just don’t send long texts or emails. Make sure your partner can easily read and absorb the information.

3. Don’t try to read your partner’s mind

Just because they may not be as expressive as you doesn’t mean they’re upset about something. Instead, if they seem distant or distracted, ask them what’s wrong instead of assuming the worst!

Introverts may not respond as quickly as you’d like them to, but before jumping to conclusions give them a chance to speak up.

Don’t assume anything based on how they behave or don’t behave, especially if they have been acting differently lately.

it’s easy for communication issues to arise from one partner being too passive and the other being too aggressive, so just try communicating a little more clearly and it will help immensely!

4. Write notes to your partner

Both introverts and extroverts can appreciate this because it’s a way to express yourself while being very thoughtful and considerate of the other person.

In this way, you can be sure that your partner will have time to think about what you’ve written, instead of rushing to reply.

5. Pay attention to nonverbal cues

if your partner suddenly stops talking or their body language changes, don’t just sit there. Ask them what they’re thinking about, even if it seems like it’s none of your business.

Introverts are more likely to show their emotions through nonverbal cues, rather than verbal ones.

If your SO seems upset but is still trying to act normal, try asking them what’s wrong or if they need anything.

This will show them that you care and won’t judge them.

6. But don’t nag your partner about their lack of communication

Don’t try to change them, just because they act differently than you. There are probably reasons for this, so respect their boundaries while still staying open to what they have to say!

if you don’t think something is important enough for a conversation with your partner but want to make sure they understand, write it down instead of telling them verbally.

Introverts really appreciate this because it gives them time to process everything you’ve said before responding.

7. Work on listening and being heard!

Introverts can often get lost in thought, so it’s important to be patient with them when they’re quiet.

If you miss something they said, simply ask them to repeat themselves instead of trying to figure it out on your own!

If you’re having trouble communicating with your introvert partner, remember that the best way to show them you care is simply by listening. They can sense if you’re just waiting for your turn to talk or if you actually want to hear what they have to say.

Also, you should expect to be heard when you speak with them. If you notice your partner zoning out, don’t let it bother you.

You can always ask them if they want to talk about what you were saying later, as a way of showing your respect and concern for their thoughts and feelings.

if you really care about not letting any problems go unresolved between you and your partner, work on listening and being heard! It’s the best way to show that you’re interested in them as a person and that you love them regardless.

8. Regularly check in throughout the day

Especially if you don’t spend much time together physically. You can text or call them just to say “hi” or ask how their day is going.

Even if you both live together, this is a great way to show you’re paying attention and care about them as a person, regardless of how much time you spend together!


The most important thing to remember when it comes to communicating with your introverted partner is that respect goes a long way. Don’t assume anything and give them enough space and time (and attention) for both of you to feel comfortable and satisfied with the relationship.

It’s important to remember that regardless of introversion or extroversion, no two people will always agree on things all the time.

If there’s one thing we can learn from making an extrovert introvert relationship work it’s that communication is key! So make sure you take the time to get involved in every exchange with the person you love if you don’t want any misunderstanding.

I hope this article gives you a great start if you want to make the most of your introvert-extrovert relationship! Now, get out there and see what kind of difference this makes for your own love life!

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Sarra is a behavioral science student and HS science teacher ( also a cat mom! ) who obsesses over typing people but can't seem to type her own self. Let's just say that for the time being, she's a cross between an INFJ and INFP!

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