INTP Girlfriend: 11 Tips to Better Understand Your Woman

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INTPs are known for their brilliant minds and their ability to see things from a different perspective. They’re also known for being a bit… difficult to understand. If you’re dating an INTP woman, or you want to have an INTP Girfriend, it’s important to understand their unique personality and the way they think.

In this article,  I’m going to give you some tips for dealing with your INTP girlfriend to better understand her, because let’s face it, they’re not easily understood.

First of all, Let’s introduce you to some of the basics of the INTP Female Characteristics.

Common Traits of Female INTPs

One of the main things you need to understand about your INTP girlfriend is that they like to have a lot of alone time. They’re introverts, which means they need to recharge their batteries by being alone. If you feel like you’re constantly bugging her or she’s always pushing you away, it’s probably because she needs some time alone.

INTP women are also known for being very independent. They like to do things on their own and they’re not really the type to rely on others. This can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. If you’re always trying to help her or do things for her, she may start to feel smothered.

Oh, and INTP women love gaining knowledge. They’re constantly trying to learn and grow, and they love nothing more than a good intellectual conversation.

And last but not least, INTP women are known for being a bit… eccentric. They march to the beat of their own drum and they don’t really care what others think of them. This can be frustrating at times, but it’s also one of the things that makes them so unique and special.

Now that you know a little bit about the basics of the INTP female, let’s move on to some tips for understanding them better.

11 Tips To Help You Deal with your INTP Girlfriend


Tip 1: Don’t try to change her

One of the worst things you can do is try to change your INTP girlfriend. She’s unique for a reason and she’s not going to change just because you want her to. If you can’t accept her for who she is, then you’re not going to have a very good relationship.


Tip 2: Give her space

As we mentioned before, INTP women need a lot of alone time. It’s important to give her space when she needs it. If you’re always trying to drag her out of her house or constantly bugging her, she’s going to start pushing you away.


Tip 3: Comfort her with words

Your INTP girlfriend may seem distant at times, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t need comfort and reassurance. In fact, words of comfort are often the best way to reach her. She may not always show it.

it’s important to remember that INTPs are always looking for comfort. They need to feel comfortable in their environment and with the people around them. If you can provide comfort and security for your INTP girlfriend, she’s going to be a lot happier.


Tip 4: Engage her in intelligent conversations

INTP women love engaging in intelligent conversations. If you can find something that you both have in common, she’s going to be very happy. A good way to start a conversation with your INTP girlfriend is to ask her about her interests or her latest findings.


Tip 5: Support her  independence

INTP women are very independent, and they like to do things on their own. It’s important to support her independence and not try to control her. If you try to tell her what to do all the time, she’s going to start resenting you.

It’s not that she doesn’t need your help from time to time, but she doesn’t want to be controlled. Let her do things her way and let her make her own decisions.

Tip 6: Make her share her Feelings 


INTP women are stereotypically known for being a bit cold and distant. They often have trouble expressing their emotions, that’s why.

If you can get her to open up and share her feelings with you, it will be a major step forward in your relationship.

Be direct with her and let her know that you want her to share her feelings with you. Don’t be afraid to start a conversation about emotions, it may be just what she needs.

Tip 7: Appreciate her quirks


INTP women are known for their quirks, and you should appreciate them! They make her unique and special, and you should be thankful for them.

Don’t try to change her and don’t get frustrated with her quirks. Embrace them and love her for who she is.

Tip 8: Share Your Days with her 


INTP women love spending time with the people they love. They want to know what you’re up to and they want to be a part of your life.

Share your days with her and let her know what’s going on in your life. She’ll appreciate it and she’ll feel closer to you.

Tip 9: Make use of her Honest mouth


INTP women are known for their honest mouth

If you need an honest opinion, she’s the person to go to. INTP women are brutally honest, and they won’t hold back just because it might hurt your feelings.

Use her honest mouth to your advantage and be honest with her in return. Don’t take everything she says to heart. You should understand that INTP Females don’t see the point in sugar-coating truths, they’re not naturally mean, they’re honest.

Tip 10: Be Patient 


INTP women are not the easiest people to understand,  and it may take some time for you to get used to them. Be patient and don’t give up on her. She’s worth the effort.

Tip 11: Stand Up For Her 


INTP women are often the victims of bullying, both at school and at work. If you see someone picking on her, stand up for her.

Don’t let anyone bully your girlfriend and don’t be afraid to stand up for her. She’ll appreciate it and she’ll feel safer with you.


Who should INTP female date?

The best match for INTP females are ENTJs, but this isn’t to say that other matches are doomed from the start. It would be more accurate to suggest that INTP females should date whoever they feel most comfortable with, as long as that person reciprocates those feelings and is able to understand the INTP female’s personality.

Are female INTP rare?

Yes, female INTPs are rare. They’re actually the rarest female personality type. Only 2% of the US female population are female INTPs.

What do INTP girls like?

INTP girls are mostly attracted to intelligent men who can keep up with their conversations. They like men who are independent and gentle. They often do not appreciate men who are domineering or insensitive.

How do you show love to INTP?

The most preferred love language for INTPs is physical affection, so hugging, hand-holding, and gentle, intimate kissing are all great ways to show your love. Other expressions of love that may be meaningful to INTPs include spending quality time together, doing thoughtful things for them, and verbal affirmations of their worthiness and livability.


INTP girlfriends can be a bit of a mystery, but if you understand their behaviors and personality, you can better relate to them. By following these tips, you can make your INTP girlfriend happy and build a stronger relationship with her.

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Sarra is a behavioral science student and HS science teacher ( also a cat mom! ) who obsesses over typing people but can't seem to type her own self. Let's just say that for the time being, she's a cross between an INFJ and INFP!

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