The 5 INTP Love Languages ( Sorted by Preference )

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INTPs love the idea of love but lack the sentimental attachment that many other types feel when it comes to their relationships.

They’ve been described as analytical, logical, detached, intellectual, slow-to-warm-up, introverted, and private. INTPs are not usually the touchy-feely types, but anyone, INTPs included have a preferred way of expressing their love for others or receiving it from them.

In this article, we’ll explore the five love languages and how INTPs usually rank them from most to least preferred. 

The INTP Love Language of Preference

  1. Physical affection

This language is all about touch and usually involves hugging, kissing, hand-holding, and other forms of physical contact. INTPs usually rank this as their number one love language, even though they’re not an extraverted sensing (Se) type.

They enjoy the physical closeness and the sensory stimulation that comes with it simply because most INTPs are not good with words and don’t really anticipate receiving them as much as showing how they feel about someone through touch or being shown how much they’re loved and appreciated by being physically intimate.

An INTP will find comfort in being touched by the one they love especially if they’re sexually involved with them.

  1. Quality time

This language is all about giving someone your undivided attention. INTPs rank this as their number two love language because they enjoy spending time with the people they love, learning about them, and exploring their interests, they especially want to spend time discussing intellectual topics with them.

They’re not very good at multitasking, so they really appreciate it when someone can give them their full attention.

An INTP will feel loved and appreciated when the one they love takes the time to just be with them and not be distracted by other things going on around them.

The same goes for an INTP showing love. If they’re giving you their undivided attention then you must really mean something to them since they’re a thinking time and usually have a hard time focusing on anything that’s not intellectually stimulating.

  1. Words of affirmation

This language is all about giving and receiving compliments. INTPs rank this as their number three love language because they like to receive compliments but don’t usually dish them out themselves since they’re more private people.

They enjoy hearing the one they love say things like “I love you,” “You’re amazing,” or “Thank you for being in my life.”

It takes time for an INTP to warm up to this love language at the beginning of a relationship, but once they do, they really appreciate the sentiment behind it.

  1. Acts of service

This language is all about doing things for the person you love. INTPs rank this as their number four love language because they usually aren’t very good at taking care of others, but they do enjoy doing things for the one they love.

It might be making them breakfast in bed, taking the dog for a walk, doing the grocery shopping, or filling up their car with gasoline.

INTPs usually rank this as their fourth language because they know that it’s not really about what they’re doing but more about the fact that they’re doing something for their loved ones out of love and not an obligation or because they feel like they have to.

  1. Gifts

This language is all about giving presents. INTPs rank this as their number five love language because, although they do enjoy receiving gifts, it’s usually not at the top of their list.

They usually appreciate heartfelt and meaningful gifts rather than extravagant or expensive ones.

Gifts are usually a hit or miss for INTPs. If you gift them something that doesn’t match who they are you’re probably giving them signs you’re not paying attention to them and they probably won’t appreciate it as much as if you got them something that’s reflective of their personality.


How do you tell if an INTP loves you?

INTPs may not always be vocal about their feelings, but they will show you in their own special way. They’ll be more attentive and loving towards you. They’ll want to spend more time with you and they’ll be more interested in your discussing thoughts and understanding your feelings.

Are INTPs Affectionate?

You’ll be surprised How INTPs treat the person they really truly love, even though they’re not openly affectionate and have a bit of a hard time expressing their feelings, ones they love someone they’ll shower them with affection. INTPs are very loyal and supportive partners.

How Do You Tell if an INTP Male Likes You?

Well, it’s not easy. INTP males in love are not the best at expressing themselves, so they’ll usually do things such as become more polite and take care of their appearance more. They’ll also want to spend quality time with the person they like. INTP males can be hard to read, but if you observe them carefully, you’ll be able to see the signs.

How Do INTPs Show Love?

The most preferred INTP love languages are quality time and physical affection. INTPs are not fans of words and may find it difficult to express their love in a verbal way. INTPs typically show their love through intimate touches and spending time with their loved ones.

Do INTPs like Romantic Gestures?

Although INTPs may not always be vocal about their feelings, they do enjoy romantic gestures. If you’re looking to sweep them off their feet, try doing something that’s thoughtful and reflective of their personality. Something like making them breakfast in bed, taking them on a surprise picnic, or buying them a gift that they’ll really appreciate will definitely make their day.

Do INTPs Fall in Love Easily?

They may be cautious when it comes to love, but INTPs, just like any other personality type, can fall in love easily. It just depends on the person and the relationship.


So there you have it, the five love languages INTPs prefer in a relationship. Keep in mind that everyone is different and what may work for one INTP might not work for another. So if you’re in a relationship with an INTP, pay attention to the ways they show their love and try speaking their love language. You’ll be sure to have a happy and healthy relationship with your INTP partner!

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Sarra is a behavioral science student and HS science teacher ( also a cat mom! ) who obsesses over typing people but can't seem to type her own self. Let's just say that for the time being, she's a cross between an INFJ and INFP!

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