Introverts are a misunderstood bunch, often labeled as shy or aloof. But the truth is, we just prefer a quiet, low-key lifestyle and cherish alone time.
Don’t get us wrong, we love hanging with our closest peeps, but we also crave solo time to recharge and get our thoughts together.
Being an anxious introvert myself, I can assure you I feel annoyed with every one of these things mentioned below!
Sometimes they’re not things that’ll annoy you per se, they may be things that make you anxious or make them feel uncomfortable thinking about or dealing with them.
So, for all my introverted homies out there, here’s My list of 15 things introverts hate the MOST:
8 Things Introverts Hate Or Fear The Most
It’s tiresome more than fearful to attend social events.
As introverts, it’s out of our element to stick around for longer periods during social events and socialize the whole time.
It’s dreadful, we dread going to such events because it requires much more energy than we’re willing to give.
When I think of an upcoming wedding ceremony or any other social event that requires my attendance I get anxious and overthink the event even before it happens.
A quick tip to overcome this dread is to mentally dig through the positive side of attending these events (depends on you ).
Also, stick to your people. Don’t go around passing fake smiles and engaging in small talk for the sake of pleasing strangers.
Part of celebrating your introversion is about being content with staying quiet when you don’t feel like talking, even during social gatherings.
2. Committing to a long-lasting relationship
It’s nice to imagine ourselves with someone whom we are comfortable with, and are attracted to romantically. But when this image starts to get real we freak out. We tend to doubt our happiness.
“Is this really the one for us? what if we were wrong and it turned out bad eventually? This is a commitment, not just a fling” … on and on goes our negative thoughts about this partnership.
What we don’t realize is that this fear came along with us being too comfortable, too happy with this person that our mind ( introverted, shy, and especially anxious) is starting to panic. This is new…
If it was just anybody we wouldn’t develop any fears regarding our relationship.
This, dear reader, facing a similar fear nowadays means you’re in love. Regard this fear as proof of your strong feelings towards your partner, and just stick with them for the love of god!
3. Public speaking
This is an introvert’s worst nightmare. Being forced to speak in front of people ( be it ones you know or strangers).
A situation where you’re the center of attention and everyone is waiting for you to speak. You’ll probably stammer at the beginning of your speech, and your hands will shake like crazy.
But if the topic you’re speaking about is of interest to you, you’ll do just fine, provided you focus on a particular spot ahead of you and avoid long eye contact with one of your audience.
A good speech preparation will help dull this fear too!
Being afraid of feeling lonely when you prefer solitude over interacting with others is so ironic, let’s just give it a haha!
But to be honest, on an emotional level, This fear is the most draining to me personally.
Sometimes when I’m surrounded by people having fun together it seems like I’m the only wallflower around and no one wants to deal with me.
I feel lonely and the worst part is going home and instead of resting, I go through the experience that I just had, and that feeling of loneliness is back tenfolds.
I would get anxious people I am surrounded with would leave someday and I’ll live with this constant feeling of loneliness.
It’s an ugly feeling especially for introverts because we make deep connections with the people we surround ourselves with.
I read once that extroverts don’t ignore us introverts intentionally. It’s just that they tend to interact with the ones who seem ready to do that.
Face it, we mostly give an air of “don’t mess with me” in public (stony face anybody ?). So this may lead us to believe it’s all in our heads. Knowing this will definitely lessen the intensity of our loneliness, don’t you think so?
5. Job Interviews
Job interviews are feared by everyone honestly, I think I’m abusing the term “Things introverts fear most” by adding this. But I think it’s crucial to talk often about job interviews and how to overcome our fear of them because … we’re talking career opportunities when this one is nailed, baby!
It’s only natural to fear job interviews as an introvert, you don’t always get to feel like you’re in a hot seat, being scrutinized, and asked unpredictable questions.
Fortunately, there are ways for introverts to ace a job interview.
What I found really helpful is taking time alone to recharge and mentally prepare myself for an interview.
I would also suggest recording yourself being interviewed by a friend and reviewing your performance to see where you’re lacking.
Prepare yourself beforehand for small talks and verbal pleasantries during the interview because they leave a good impression on you and prove you can work with others in a positive atmosphere.
And lastly, be professional. Don’t let your shyness stop you from showing the interviewers you’re more than fit for the job.
6. Crowded places
Crowded areas like trains, subways, and public places used to give me the feeling of being scrutinized and talked about and I remember it raised my anxiety to the max. It was uncomfortable and lasted forever.
I know it’s a very common fear we introverts have. This feeling comes due to us being so self-aware and observant in crowded places to the point of misinterpreting things.
I would suggest listening to your favorite podcast, and concentrating on yourself and your business rather than gauging others’ reactions to your breathing.
7. phone calls
Do introverts hate phone calls?
YES, we do.
Why? because calling is so 20th century maybe? I mean, why would someone call if there’s text messaging is beyond me.
There are lots of reasons for introverts (especially anxious introverts ) to hate and fear phone calls. Primarily because they often come unexpectedly and so out of the blue while we’re minding our own introverted business.
When a phone call occurs you find yourself pressed into deciding whether to answer the phone or ignore it while the freaking phone is ringing! You can’t take your time to answer or plan your words beforehand which, is crucial for many introverted individuals.
We’re also required to make small talk during the phone call as it isn’t enough to put up with that in person.
Now if you’re looking for tips to stop your fear and hatred of phone calls from me, you’ll have to wait a bit longer because I still haven’t figured that out yet.
If I get overly anxious when the phone rings, I’d just put it on silent and move on with my business. If it’s important they’ll leave a message, and that’s it.
My well-being comes first.
8. Being ignored in group settings
We are naturally quiet, sensitive individuals who find it difficult to share our opinions and thoughts in group settings out of fear of being ignored by others, this may prevent us from enjoying these kinds of settings.
To be frank with you, being ignored during group settings or heard depends on you and your self-concept.
I would suggest you stop putting the blame on your introversion and taking offense every time people are not being attentive to you, and practice making yourself clearly heard.
If you think your arguments and added thoughts are accurate and important don’t softly speak them or hesitate during the talk, just speak clearly for you to be unignored.
Things like this don’t come by wishing, you need to intentionally import confidence, and rise up your self-esteem for people to notice you.
9. Being Interrupted While Working
Introverts tend to immerse themselves in their work and need a quiet environment to get things done. Being interrupted while working can disrupt their focus, productivity, and peace of mind.
For an introvert, having a deadline to meet and having someone come in to talk or ask for their time can be quite frustrating.
10. Being Pressured to Be Outgoing and Talkative
Introverts often have a more reserved personality, and they don’t feel the need to be the center of attention or to constantly talk. Being pressured to be outgoing and talkative goes against their natural tendencies and can be quite annoying.
Introverts would much rather listen and observe, and they don’t feel comfortable being the life of the party.
Being Surrounded By Loud Noises
Introverts often hate being in environments with loud noises. They can’t focus on their own thoughts and have a hard time relaxing.
This leads to feelings of anxiety and stress, which are not things introverts enjoy at all. In addition, the constant noise pollution can be overwhelming and interfere with the introvert’s need for solitude.
For example, loud music in clubs, bars or parties can be the worst nightmare for an introvert. The loud music, people shouting and dancing can cause introverts to feel overwhelmed, stressed and agitated.
The best solution for this is to simply avoid these types of places and stick to quiet environments that suit your needs better.
Being Forced to be the Center of Attention
Introverts are not fans of being the center of attention, and they often hate it when they’re forced to be. For example, they may be asked to give a speech in front of a large audience or even give a presentation at work.
This can be extremely stressful and make them feel nervous and self-conscious.
It’s not uncommon for introverts to feel like they’re under a microscope, and everyone is analyzing and scrutinizing them. To overcome this fear, focus on the subject matter of the speech or presentation and to engage with the audience in a natural and comfortable way. Also, taking deep breaths, drinking water, and practicing your delivery can help you feel more confident.
Going to Networking Events
Networking events can be the stuff of nightmares for introverts. The thought of going to a room filled with strangers and having to chat with them can make introverts feel anxious and stressed.
The small talk, the business cards and the artificial smile make them feel like they’re playing a role that’s not natural to them.
Introverts often feel like they’re being judged, and this can be a traumatic experience. To overcome this, introverts should focus on their strengths and what they want to get out of the networking event.
It’s also helpful to talk to people who share similar interests or hobbies to make the experience more enjoyable.
Being in a Crowded Elevator
Introverts don’t like to be in crowded elevators because they feel like they’re trapped and can’t escape. The close proximity of people can be overwhelming and make them feel anxious. This can lead to feelings of stress, and they can’t relax.
One way to overcome this fear is to try to focus on your breathing or think of something calming to distract you. You can also try to avoid crowded elevators altogether and use the stairs instead.
Meeting New People
Introverts often have a hard time meeting new people. They can be shy and feel like they’re being judged, which can make them feel anxious and stressed. This can be especially true if the new people are in a position of authority, such as a new boss or coworker.
To overcome this fear, introverts can try to find common ground with the new person, such as shared interests or hobbies. This can help break the ice and make the introvert feel more comfortable.
It’s also helpful to have a few conversation starters in mind, so you’re not struggling to find something to talk about. Remember, it’s okay to be nervous, and the other person is likely feeling the same way.
What do introverts hate doing?
Introverts tend to dislike loud and busy social situations. They also don’t enjoy having to be the center of attention, especially in a large group of people. This can include activities like public speaking, attending parties, and participating in large group discussions.
What are introverts afraid of?
Introverts may have a fear of being judged or criticized by others. They may also be afraid of social situations where they don’t know many people, or feel uncomfortable being the center of attention. They may also fear being drained or overwhelmed by too much social interaction.
What makes an introvert angry?
Introverts can become angry when they feel like they’re not being heard or their needs are not being respected. They may also get upset when they’re forced into situations they don’t feel comfortable in or when their alone time is taken away. Additionally, if someone disregards their boundaries or ignores their preferences, they may become frustrated and angry.
What do introverts love most?
Introverts love their alone time and enjoy being able to recharge through solitary activities such as reading, writing, or spending time in nature. They also appreciate meaningful conversations with close friends and family and love learning about new topics and exploring their passions. Overall, introverts value solitude, deep connections, and opportunities for personal growth and discovery.
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