How to Text an Introvert Girl (Step By Step Guide)

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When it comes to texting an introvert, whether it’s a girl or a guy, you need to be aware there are certain ‘rules’ you must follow if you aim to make a connection.

introvert girls don’t like to be approached in a shallow manner and prefer a guy who’d take the time to get to know them first before looking at them as a potential date or even a friend!

Now if you want to connect with an introvert girl through texts and keep her interested, here’s a step by step guide to help you along the way.


How To Text an Introvert Girl


step 1: text her in the evening


The reason being is that during this time she’ll likely be at home relaxing in front of the TV, or taking a bath.

So when she checks her phone and sees you’ve texted her it can come across as surprising in a good way if it’s not in the middle of the night!


step 2: start off with an opener


Don’t expect her to give you personal information by means of text, so an opener will be required if you want to keep the conversation flowing.

Now there are dozens of different openers out there but I find it best to ask about something that’s common between the two of you!

For example if she’s into dance then you could ask her what her favorite dance style is.

However if you’re unsure of which kind of openers work best then take a look at these lines to see what I mean:

“You’ll never guess who I bumped into the other day…(name)”

“I was thinking about you the other day, how are you? : )”

If you’re still stuck for words then just spell it out and say exactly what’s on your mind.

After all, what’s the worst that could happen? She just doesn’t reply!


step 3: make the conversation easy


In order to make conversation easy between the both of you when texting an introvert girl, it’s best to ask open questions that allow her to easily answer and reply.

For example:

“What’s your favorite dance style?”

“How was your weekend? : )”

If she doesn’t feel she can give you a proper answer then she may just move onto the next text without saying anything at all.


step 4: don’t use pick up lines, EVER!


Yes, it’s true that pick up lines get a bad rep for a reason! They are cheesy and not appropriate in the slightest.

So avoid this kind of thing by all means because an introvert girl won’t respond to someone trying to make her laugh with something like:

“I bet our kids would be gorgeous 😉 😉 ; )”

They can come across as inauthentic and in some cases horrifically creepy!



step 5: don’t text constantly


So you’re texting an introvert girl and it’s going really well, but there is one problem…you just keep texting her over and over again.

As a result, she starts to feel obliged to respond all the time and that’s the last thing you want!

if an introvert girl starts taking her time replying to your texts then that is your cue to give her a little space and allow her to respond when she’s ready.

She’ll appreciate you all the more for it in the long run!

step 6: stay relaxed when texting an introvert girl

An introvert guy or girl is very much aware when someone uses texts as a means of pressure so if you want to text them then keep it casual and try not to sound too needy.

So always stay relaxed when texting them and if you seem tense or stressed out, the chances of her wanting to get in touch with you will drop dramatically.


step 7: don’t take it personally if she doesn’t reply


If an introvert girl doesn’t text back then it doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s ignoring you.

Rather, she could be busy doing something else and just not have the time to text back right away.

So don’t take it personally every time she doesn’t reply because there are hundreds of reasons why, especially if you’re texting her for the first time!


step 8: don’t always expect to hear from her first


If you’re texting an introvert girl and she initiates texts a couple of times don’t take that as a sign that she wants to be the one who always texts first.

don’t always expect to hear from her before you text her because it just isn’t always the case, introvert women are mostly shy and some can even get nervous before writing a text message.

Remember: just because she went for the ball once doesn’t mean that she’s going to do it every time so keep on track with your own initiative too, okay?


step 9: don’t be afraid to tell her how you feel


If an introvert guy or girl is texting you and they seem interested, then go with it and let them know that you’re also interested and would like to move your conversations to real life …but don’t be too blunt about it!

Be subtle and drop hints so they’ll know without you having to say it outright.




An introvert girl isn’t anything like an extroverted one, so you have to remember this when texting her.

However, following this 9 steps, you should be good to go! Now go out there and text the heck out of your dream introvert girl 😉

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Sarra is a behavioral science student and HS science teacher ( also a cat mom! ) who obsesses over typing people but can't seem to type her own self. Let's just say that for the time being, she's a cross between an INFJ and INFP!

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