I can’t press enough on the importance of reading self-help books for introverts, especially if you put your hands on the right ones from the very beginning of your growth journey.
Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case for me. When I was fed up with the way my life was going, and being the introverted bookaholic I am, the first thing I reached out to for guidance was books. Not experts- not even family for that matter.
And so I had to go through the hurdle of actually reading every self-help book I got my hands on, even the crappy ones. But eventually, I stumbled along the way on gems that seriously held my hands and led me to the light at the end of the tunnel ( poetic eh?).
So now I’m going to list my top 5 books that I consider to be self-help ones. And they are for me the “gem books” that every introvert looking to embrace his introversion needs to start with and read at least once in a lifetime.
These are not books for introverts, those will be on another list for later. The ones I’m listing in this post focus more on the psychological side of our behaviors as human beings.
I specifically recommend them because the concept and ideas discussed in these books- in the long term- were well worth the time invested in them, and hopefully, it will be the same for you.
5 Self Help Books For Introverts
She explains from a research-based perspective how our way of seeing ourselves and our ability to grow can affect our lives in all its aspects.
Basically, and according to Dweck, there are two types of mindsets.
The fixed mindset, and the growth mindset. She goes about explaining how having a fixed mindset will give you the belief that your abilities are fixed and your talents are set since birth while having a growth mindset makes you think of yourself as a work in progress and raise inside you the belief that accomplishments in your life will come from hard work, not innate talent.
The book also suggests that a growth mindset can be cultivated, and people can learn to use a growth mindset when they want to, to change their life, and grind for success and happiness.
The concept of this book is really- obvious. Nevertheless, it is one most of us( I for sure am included ) overlook in our search for reasons why we can’t be better versions of ourselves.
When I started reading this book I felt like I’m on a journey to enlightenment and it was one.
I never regret reading this book. I just wish the book wasn’t packed with that many examples backing up the concept of the book.
So if you’re into quick reads but don’t want to miss this book’s insights, I highly suggest reading the summary of mindset by Carol Dweck.
This book also focuses on the importance of cultivating the right mindset. It was the reason why I picked it up, and let me tell you, I was NOT disappointed at all.
Psychologist Angela Duckworth sets out to disprove the notion that talent is the recipe for success and that lacking talent will get you nowhere near the road to achievements, especially on the professional side of life.
Angela argues in her book that it’s not talent that leads to success, but a combination of passion and perseverance. She labeled it as grit. And the good news is: there are ways to build grit, these are also mentioned in the book.
What really stayed with me long after reading this book, other than the main idea of it, is the word grit in itself.
I would constantly catch myself repeating the word grit in my head when I’m faced with situations where I’m about to give up or shy away from doing things.
I’m not kidding when I say my mind would go numb. It’s like I’m doing self-hypnosis, and I would actually get things done this way!
Grit left me wanting to be a more hardworking, high-achieving woman. And that’s what I’m doing to this day.
Again, this book is a long read. I’ve always been fine with psychological self-help books being long, but if you aren’t, you should check out: Summary of Grit: The Power & Passion of Perseverance
3. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*CK: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson
I know. I know. Some of you may be thinking now “not this book again! You too Sarra!”
But hey! hear me out till the end, will you?
So like many introverts out there. When this book was released I was exasperated with the hype it created on social media and thought it was just another one of those books that are just for “the show “. Especially after seeing the obnoxious choice of title on the cover of this book. “It’s definitely the one for extroverts.” I thought, but BOY was I wrong.
The style of writing and the humor in this book is really refreshing and if you’re mature enough you won’t find it offending to read that much profanity in a self-help book.
I think Mark Manson wanted to showcase the concept of his book through his frank writing style. He just has little care for the standards.
The book overall feels real, unlike what I initially thought it would be, and you would feel like you’re getting mindset advice from a realist friend.
Mark sets in his book to remind us of the importance of humility, honesty, and self-awareness in our daily life and that our energy is so precious for us to waste it on giving an F word!
Whenever I start fussing about something that’s happening to me. I remember some of Mark’s words in this book and I just force myself to not give it much importance and power over my wellbeing. Eventually, I came to genuinely care ”less”.
I highly recommend this Great book to get introverts started in the world of self-help.
I really enjoyed this book and I think a lot of introverts, especially thinking introverts would find it entertaining despite being a long essay on Behavioral psychology at its core.
In his book, Kahneman did a detailed essay about the illusion of decision making. How our idea of logic is actually illogical, and how we are being led to make mistakes without even being aware that we are doing them.
This hopefully allows the reader to seriously ponder how he or she is thinking and adjust for the previously mistaken irrationality where it is undesirable.
He also did a good job of explaining the two thinking systems in our brains. The intuitive system 1 and the deliberative system 2.
I like that Kahneman ends each chapter with a few real-life takeaways, and overall I like how he presents the results of his research in an approachable manner. I know a lot of people complain about how the writing style in self-help books is amateurish, but I think Kahneman did a good job with this book and his writing style mostly kept me entertained.
The book is a must-read for sure. It’s stocked with thought-provoking facts about the human brain and how it leads our psychological behavior. and it’s probably the kind of book you’ll keep nearby because you couldn’t absorb all the information delivered in one read.
You can also check the Summary: Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman.
This book was an interesting read, I found it to be thought-provoking and had applicable ideas in real life.
Insight deals with self-awareness both external and internal and how we can learn more about it.
I think this is super important for us introverts, considering we ponder largely on internal self-awareness and mostly neglect the external.
According to research displayed in this book, we can’t gain a better understanding of who we are just by looking inside of us. We must know who we are internally and externally for us to have true insight.
Insight also talks about how we ought to go about being truly self-aware and offers clear, detailed exercises for cultivating this skill.
We reached the end of this list, I really hope you find these books helpful if you decide to read them, you better let me know if you do!
Also, if you have any books outside this list that guided you through your self-help and development journey as an introvert please comment below so others can benefit from your suggestions.