Making friends as an introvert in a new city can be difficult. The problem is that introverts are often not the most outgoing people, and making the first move to strike up a conversation with someone they don’t know can seem like an impossible task. But it doesn’t have to be that way! In this article, I’m going to share some advice and tips that will help you get started on making friends in your new city, and, you never know! you might even find your perfect match without ever leaving your couch!
How To Make Friends In A New City As An Introvert?
So there are two roads to walkthrough if you want to land a friend when you’re in a new city: you either look on the internet or you go out and actually meet them.
1. Making Friendships Online
Let’s talk about how you can make friends in your new city online…
The first step is to find a Meetup group that matches your interests and if you think you’re too introverted for direct meetups, you can join an online introvert community (e.g., on Reddit or Facebook) where the majority of its members live in your new city, it takes some researching to find those, but it’s definitely worth it because it’ll definitely raise your chances of finding friends in your new city who share your introverted traits and whom you’re comfortable being around.
If you don’t mind your friendships being exclusively online, you can participate in other online activities such as video games, sports teams, etc …
Found an interesting person? Your next step is reaching out!
There’s no shame in reaching out to someone you’re interested in, but it’s important that your message doesn’t come off as creepy. So before sending a text or email, make sure that you have the other person’s contact information and check their social media profiles first so you can get some insight into what they like and show them.
Now that you have some friends in your city, what should you do? Ask them to hang out! There’s nothing wrong with asking for a meetup in the city park. It just takes confidence and the willingness to step outside of yourself.
2. Join A Sports League
One of the best ways to meet people when you’re new in the city is through sports. There are lots of different cities with leagues for just about any sport you could imagine! and many of these leagues accept players no matter their skill level or experience.
So do your research and apply to be part of the team, You’ll be surprised how quickly you make friends with other players and will have fun!
Voluntary work is one of the best ways to bring in new social connections especially if you’re new to the city.
You can volunteer at an event, fundraiser, or shelter and get to know other people who are passionate about what you care about.
Even for an introvert in a new city, volunteering has a way of making us feel comfortable doing what we do. The people you meet there often have an open body language and are friendly to everyone around so it’ll definitely be easier for you to make friends while giving back to your new community.
I’m sure there are some great websites that provide opportunities to volunteer in your area. again you should definitely do your research dear.
4. Try Out New Hobbies In Your Area
Pick a hobby you’ve been interested in like knitting, cooking, or gardening so you can meet others with similar interests in your new city.
I personally like to go for a walk around my neighborhood every evening and I’m aware that this hobby of mine has given me the opportunity to get to know a bunch of nice neighbors I wouldn’t have talked to if I didn’t often meet them during my walks.
There’s specifically this old lady that lives about two blocks from my house whom I got to know during my evening walks and she’s just the sweetest person you could ever ask for as a walking companion!
You can also try joining your local library book club, where introverts have been known to make friends more easily. Discussing Books have a way of introducing us to the best conversationalists, the kind of people you’ll never be bored around as an introvert.
5. Ask For Recommendations
If you’ve moved to a new city for work or stud, you can ask for recommendations from friends and colleagues on where to go for fun things to do in the city.
I’m sure they’ll be happy to help you- they might even want company!
6. If All Else Fails…
Just start talking to strangers – it’s a lot easier than it seems!
Whether you’re in a coffee shop, a supermarket, or at the bus station, you can just gather your courage and politely start a conversation. You’re new to the city and honestly, this is the best topic for a conversation starter with strangers.
I hope the tips in this article at least help get started on making a more fulfilling life for your introverted self in your new city and I wish you all the best on your journey. Any comments or feedback are always welcome dears!