What to Do When Your Introvert Boyfriend Doesn’t Text Back

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If you’re in a relationship with an introvert guy who doesn’t initiate texts, who seems to have difficulty communicating their feelings and thoughts in text messages, and who often ends up not texting back then these tips may help you deal with them:


What to Do When Your Introvert Boyfriend Doesn’t Text Back


  1. Understand your introvert partner’s needs


An introvert boyfriend or girlfriend will prefer to communicate in person with their partner and via texts with others, That’s because they can observe their partner’s body language and facial expressions which will help them gauge how their response is being received by you. Introverts need time to think about what they want to say before saying it – the more comfortable they feel with you, the more likely they are to communicate their thoughts and feelings.


  1. Be patient


It can seem frustrating when an introvert doesn’t answer a text message right away, especially if you’re used to getting instant responses from your partner in real life. However, due to their analytical nature, they will want to thoroughly consider your message before responding to you.


  1. Send a follow-up text message if they don’t respond right away


Introverts take time to consider how they will respond in any given situation, so it is important that your follow-up texts aren’t needy or demanding. For example, “Did you get my last text? I’m just wondering if you are okay or did something happen?” will make them anxious and cause them to avoid your messages. Instead, send a text message that is informational or easy for them to respond to with a simple yes or no answer: “I hadn’t heard from you in a while – you busy?.”


  1. Meet face-to-face to discuss what’s bothering you


If your introvert partner is avoiding communicating with you, it is important that they feel comfortable approaching both you and the problem at hand. You need to meet them in person to have a discussion about whatever issue is frustrating you and ask if something’s up with them. If you can see their reaction to your question, it will help you understand what’s going on.


  1. Compromise


For the introvert boyfriend or girlfriend who doesn’t text back as much as you’d like them to, try creating a space for them to freely express themselves when they are ready. You could make plans with them to go somewhere that they enjoy or suggest they do one of the things they like on their own. If you can create a situation for them where they are comfortable and feel supported, it will be easier for them to respond more often in text messages.

Being in a relationship with an introvert man may not be easy for an extrovert, but if you can understand them well, then it becomes so meaningful and the result will be “a beautiful relationship”.

I hope this article has been helpful to you in dealing with the introvert boyfriend or girlfriend who doesn’t text back. If you have any questions, please post them in the comment section below.


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Sarra is a behavioral science student and HS science teacher ( also a cat mom! ) who obsesses over typing people but can't seem to type her own self. Let's just say that for the time being, she's a cross between an INFJ and INFP!

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