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How to Make Friends in College as an Introvert

Making friends in college can feel hard—especially if you’re introverted. Big crowds, small talk, and busy social scenes might not be your thing. And that’s okay. You don’t need to change who you are to meet people or build real connections. You just need to find the ways that work best for you.

This guide will help you take small, honest steps to meet people, grow friendships, and still protect your quiet space. You don’t have to be the loudest in the room to be seen, heard, and appreciated.

You’re Not Alone

First things first—you’re not the only one who feels this way. Many students come to college feeling shy, awkward, or out of place. Not everyone is ready to jump into parties or talk to strangers in the hallway. You’d be surprised how many people are hoping someone would just say hi to them.

Being introverted doesn’t mean you’re antisocial. It just means you prefer smaller groups, deeper talks, and quiet moments. That’s actually a strength. Many people are drawn to calm, thoughtful, and kind energy.

Start Small and Go Slow

You don’t have to push yourself too far to make friends. In fact, forcing things can make it worse. Instead, take small steps. Little moments can lead to big connections.

Try these simple actions:

  • Smile at someone in class.
  • Say “hi” to the person next to you.
  • Ask someone what the homework was.
  • Join a club that feels chill and welcoming.
  • Go to campus events that are low-key or interest-based.

These moments might feel small, but they can open doors. You don’t have to do them all at once. Just try one when you’re ready.

Choose Places That Feel Safe

Loud parties and huge groups might be too much. And that’s fine. You don’t need to go where the noise is. Look for spaces that match your vibe.

Here are some calm places to meet people:

  • The library
  • Study groups
  • Book clubs
  • Coffee shops on campus
  • Interest-based clubs (art, writing, gaming, etc.)
  • Volunteering events

These settings often have a more relaxed feel. You can talk at your own pace, and the pressure to “perform” is lower.

Look for Shared Interests

One of the easiest ways to make friends is by finding people who like the same things you do. Shared interests give you something to talk about and enjoy together.

You can start with:

  • Hobbies like drawing, music, or gaming
  • Sports you enjoy watching or playing
  • Shows, movies, or books you love
  • Classes or topics you’re passionate about

Once you find common ground, talking becomes easier. You’re not just trying to “be social”—you’re sharing something real.

Online Connections Count Too

If in-person stuff feels too much at first, it’s okay to start online. Many colleges have Facebook groups, Discord servers, or class group chats. These spaces can help you ease into conversations without the pressure of face-to-face interaction.

You can also:

  • Comment in discussion boards for class
  • Message someone about homework
  • Join campus group chats or forums

These small online chats can turn into real-life conversations later. And by then, you’ll already know a bit about the person.

Comparing Introvert-Friendly vs. Social Events

Let’s break down the kinds of events you might come across on campus—and which ones might feel better suited for introverts.

Event TypeDescriptionEnergy LevelGood for Introverts?
Open mic nightA calm setting with music or poemsLow to mediumYes
Club meetingFocused around shared interestMediumYes
Dorm partyLoud, lots of peopleHighMaybe not
Study groupQuiet and focused, small groupLowYes
Sports gameLoud crowd, high energyHighMaybe
Volunteering eventStructured, meaningful tasksMediumYes
Movie night on campusGroup event, but calm and focusedLow to mediumYes

You don’t have to say “yes” to everything. Just find what fits your comfort level.

Let the Friendship Grow Naturally

Once you meet someone, you don’t have to rush things. Real friendships take time. And introverts often form deep bonds, not surface-level ones. That’s a strength.

Here’s how you can keep things going:

  • Send a message after class.
  • Invite them to grab coffee.
  • Ask how their day is going.
  • Share something funny or interesting.
  • Offer to study together.

These tiny check-ins help build trust. You’re showing that you care and want to stay connected.

When You Just Need a Break

Even as you make friends, you’ll still need time alone. That’s part of being an introvert. Social time can be fun—but also draining. It’s okay to say no to things sometimes. It’s okay to just rest.

You’re not being rude or distant. You’re just taking care of your energy. And the right friends will understand that.

Ways to recharge:

  • Listen to music
  • Take a walk
  • Watch your favorite show
  • Journal or draw
  • Take a nap
  • Sit in nature

Alone time helps you show up better when you’re with others. Don’t feel guilty about it.

Celebrate the Wins

Every time you say hi, join a club, or open up a little, it’s a win. Every moment you put yourself out there—even just a little—is brave. Celebrate that.

Friendship doesn’t have to be big or loud to be real. Even if it takes time, your people are out there. You don’t have to change to find them.

Final Thoughts: You’re Enough

Making friends as an introvert in college isn’t always easy—but it’s possible. You don’t have to fake being outgoing. You don’t have to be “on” all the time. You just have to show up as yourself, in ways that feel right for you.

There’s someone out there waiting for a friend just like you. Quiet, kind, thoughtful—you bring value to every space you enter. You belong.

Take your time. Go at your own pace. You don’t need a script. You just need to be you.

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