How Does An Introvert Show Interest, Flirt nad Make Friends!

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It’s the first week of October. Fall has settled in by this time and I just can’t get enough of the cozy atmosphere these days.

The rain has given me the perfect excuse to huddle for days indoors without feeling guilty. And what topic should I write about in my cozy setting if not romance, love, and emotional intimacy for introverts?

Unlike extroverts, we introverts have a feeling personality type. our feelings run on a deeper level than extroverts. We put a lot of emotions and energy when it comes to our relationship with the people around us- family, friends, and most importantly the one we’re romantically attracted to.

We have a feeling personality type, but we’re not the verbal sort. So it’ll be kind of hard for your radar to catch our “interest” waves early on. that’s why I’ll be bluntly briefing you on:

How Does An Introvert Show Interest?


They will ignore you at first

Here’s one thing you’ll want to keep in mind about us. When an introvert ignores you, they may be crushing on you.

My extroverted friend always teases me by saying: when an introvert ignores you, ask him out and they’ll nod their yes.

The way I see it, we initially ignore the people we’re interested in because of our fear of rejection. We don’t take rejections very well you know.

We also don’t make a move until we’re positive about how we’re feeling. Once that’s out of the question, we’ll often go on following our hearts.

They Can’t help the eye contact

When you two are with a group of friends, they will most likely be hyper-aware of you, and you will catch them looking at you more than a couple of times.

They will want to spend quality time with you

Introverts enjoy their alone time too much to leave it for someone.  So if an introvert you met recently wants to hang out with you- Just you, I’m not talking about group hangouts. That’s a sign they’re interested in you.

They will be comfortable around you 

They may be shy around you at first but that’s only normal when you’re with someone you like. eventually, they’ll relax and be more enthusiastic and talkative around you if they like you. See if they’re reserved and on guard when you two are with others. If that’s the case, then you’re witnessing their true self when you two are alone together.

They will invite you home

This is not a casual thing. Most extroverts see it that way but not us. It’s a huge clue an introvert is interested in you. Introverts regard their homes as sanctuaries. Our go-to place to enjoy solitary activities. Being invited means hanging out with you indoors is more enjoyable than solitary activities.

You will be their go to person 

Basically, we’re very private about our emotions and how we truly feel about things. But if we’re interested in someone, they will become our go to person. someone whom we spill our hearts to. we’ll wish for them to see the way we process things to help them understand our behaviors and characteristics.

They will want to know …You!

If an introvert is interested in you they will ask around about you. They will look you up on social media.  your introvert will want you to talk about yourself and be content listening to you talking about your hobbies, what you like to eat, your favorite color..etc

They will be attentive to you

Introverts will pay close attention to their person when they’re around. The dark circles under your eyes, the scar on the side of your cheek, your choice of clothing, and- “did you cut your hair? I think it suits you this way…”

Oh, the things I noticed about the guys I liked in the past still make me feel like a total creep every time they come to mind.

They will do extroverted things with you

If an introvert wants to go to a party you said you’re attending when they literally refused the invitation a while ago, it’s a sign they want to be around you even though they will be getting out of their comfort zone doing that.

They would call you

Introverts really hate phone calls. So if yours often calls you, accept the magic sign. Don’t even question their feelings towards you after this one.

They would get possessive over you

Extroverts also get possessive. But for us, it really has something to do with us taking relationships very seriously. If we’re interested in someone, just be aware that we’re married to them in our imagination and we’re looking for a bigger house for the kids to play. So you can’t expect us not to react when someone gets in the way and shows signs that they want to get closer to the person sharing our inner world with us. there will be no mistaking the hard looks and the stone face from your introvert.

Look for the small unintentional acts of intimacy

Extroverts may regard kissing or holding hands in public as ways of displaying light intimacy and love. Introverts, in fact, show intimacy differently. They will naturally want to protect you. DIY something personal for you, or put their hands on the small of your back to guide you. These small things should be interpreted as hints your introvert is definitely interested in you.

They will treat you better than others 

People sometimes claim introverts are standoffish and overall rude. That’s not true. it’s just that some of us may be socially awkward and we’re reserved. So in case, you notice your introvert treating you better than others, asking about your well-being, wanting to feed you, wanting you good just know for a fact that they like you.

Maybe it’s not about personality type. Or maybe it’s because I’m an introvert. But I can just feel it in my bones when someone is interested in me way before they say it. You’ll just be constantly aware you’re treated differently even if they try to hide it. Do extroverts feel the same way in situations like these?

We may be private and hard to read, but that’s what makes the process of being with an introvert worth it.

If you’re an extrovert, accept the differences between you two. Understand your introvert’s behavior and characteristics. These two go hand in hand.

When you do that, you’ll be introduced to a unique person, only you and a handful of others get to truly know ( Said the self-proclaimed introvert!)

I’m hoping this post was helpful to you and gave you an idea of how introverts act when interested. But why do I feel like most people reading this aren’t going to be extroverts, but introverts looking for affirmation of their actions?

How Do Introverts Flirt: Understanding Their Unique Approach

Introverts have a unique way of flirting that often goes unnoticed by extroverts. They tend to be more reserved and subtle in their approach, preferring to use their wit and intellect to attract a potential partner. Here are some common ways that introverts flirt:

They Listen Intently

Introverts are great listeners and they use this to their advantage when flirting. They will listen to what the other person is saying, ask follow-up questions, and show genuine interest in what they have to say.

They Use Their Intelligence

Introverts tend to be highly intelligent and they will use this to their advantage when flirting. They will make witty comments, use clever wordplay, and engage in intellectual debates with their potential partner.

They Show Interest in Hobbies

Introverts are known for their deep interests and passions. They will often show genuine interest in the hobbies and interests of their potential partner, which can be a subtle way of flirting.

They Avoid Small Talk

Introverts often find small talk to be tedious and uninteresting. Instead, they will engage in deeper, more meaningful conversations with their potential partner. This can be a way of showing their intelligence and wit, as well as their interest in the other person.

They Need Alone Time

Introverts need time alone to recharge their batteries. If they are spending time with someone they are interested in, they may need to take breaks and spend time alone. This can be a sign that they are interested in the other person and want to spend more time with them.

Signs an Introvert Wants to Be Your Friend: How to Recognize the Cues

Introverts can be difficult to read, especially when it comes to determining whether or not they want to be your friend. Here are some common signs that an introvert is interested in being your friend

1. They Initiate Contact

Introverts are typically reserved, so if they are initiating contact with you, it is a good sign that they are interested in being your friend. This could be through text messages, phone calls, or social media.

2. They Share Their Interests

Introverts are passionate about their hobbies and interests. If they are sharing these things with you, it is a sign that they want to connect with you on a deeper level.

3. They Ask Questions

Introverts are great listeners and they will often ask thoughtful questions to get to know you better. If they are asking you questions about your life, it is a sign that they are interested in getting to know you.

4. They Make Time for You

Introverts value their alone time, but if they are making time to spend with you, it is a sign that they are interested in being your friend. This could be through inviting you to events, spending time with you one-on-one, or inviting you to hang out with their friends.

5. They Trust You

Introverts are typically private and reserved, so if they are opening up to you and sharing personal details, it is a sign that they trust you and value your friendship.


  1. How do introverts act when they like someone?

Introverts often act shy and reserved when they like someone. They may become quiet and avoid eye contact or physical touch. However, they may also show their interest by asking thoughtful questions and listening attentively to the person they like.

  1. How do introverts express their feelings?

Introverts tend to express their feelings through actions rather than words. They may do things like offering small gestures of kindness, doing favors, or spending quality time with the people they care about. They may also express their feelings through creative outlets like writing or art.

  1. What are introverts interested in?

Introverts tend to be interested in deep, meaningful connections with others. They enjoy learning and exploring new ideas, engaging in introspection and self-reflection, and finding creative outlets for self-expression. They may also have niche interests that they are passionate about.

  1. How does an introvert girl show interest?

An introvert girl may show interest by spending more time around the person she likes, initiating conversations or activities, and making an effort to get to know them better. She may also become more open and vulnerable with them, sharing personal stories or opinions.

  1. How do you know if an introvert girl has a crush on you?

An introvert girl with a crush may become more shy or nervous around you, blush or avoid eye contact. She may also make an effort to spend more time around you, initiate conversations or activities, and ask questions about your life.

  1. How to flirt with an introvert?

To flirt with an introvert, focus on deepening your connection with them through meaningful conversations and shared activities. Avoid overwhelming them with too much physical touch or stimulation. Be patient and respect their need for alone time, and show genuine interest in their passions and interests.



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Sarra is a behavioral science student and HS science teacher ( also a cat mom! ) who obsesses over typing people but can't seem to type her own self. Let's just say that for the time being, she's a cross between an INFJ and INFP!

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