It’s the first week of October. Fall has settled in by this time and I just can’t get enough of the cozy atmosphere these days. The rain has given me the perfect excuse to huddle for days indoors without feeling guilty. And what topic should I write about in my cozy setting if not romance, love, and emotional intimacy for introverts?
Unlike extroverts, we introverts have a feeling personality type. our feelings run on a deeper level than extroverts. We put a lot of emotions and energy when it comes to our relationship with the people around us- family, friends, and most importantly the one we’re romantically attracted to.
We have a feeling personality type, but we’re not the verbal sort. So it’ll be kind of hard for your radar to catch our “interest” waves early on. that’s why I’ll be bluntly briefing you on:
How Does An Introvert Show Interest?
They will ignore you at first
Here’s one thing you’ll want to keep in mind about us. When an introvert ignores you, they may be crushing on you.
My extroverted friend always teases me by saying: when an introvert ignores you, ask him out and they’ll nod their yes.
The way I see it, we initially ignore the people we’re interested in because of our fear of rejection. We don’t take rejections very well you know.
We also don’t make a move until we’re positive about how we’re feeling. Once that’s out of the question, we’ll often go on following our hearts.
They Can’t help the eye contact
When you two are with a group of friends, they will most likely be hyper-aware of you, and you will catch them looking at you more than a couple of times.
They will want to spend quality time with you
Introverts enjoy their alone time too much to leave it for someone. So if an introvert you met recently wants to hang out with you- Just you, I’m not talking about group hangouts. That’s a sign they’re interested in you.
They will be comfortable around you
They may be shy around you at first but that’s only normal when you’re with someone you like. eventually, they’ll relax and be more enthusiastic and talkative around you if they like you. See if they’re reserved and on guard when you two are with others. If that’s the case, then you’re witnessing their true self when you two are alone together.
They will invite you home
This is not a casual thing. Most extroverts see it that way but not us. It’s a huge clue an introvert is interested in you. Introverts regard their homes as sanctuaries. Our go-to place to enjoy solitary activities. Being invited means hanging out with you indoors is more enjoyable than solitary activities.
You will be their go to person
Basically, we’re very private about our emotions and how we truly feel about things. But if we’re interested in someone, they will become our go to person. someone whom we spill our hearts to. we’ll wish for them to see the way we process things to help them understand our behaviors and characteristics.
They will want to know …You!
If an introvert is interested in you they will ask around about you. They will look you up on social media. your introvert will want you to talk about yourself and be content listening to you talking about your hobbies, what you like to eat, your favorite color..etc
They will be attentive to you
Introverts will pay close attention to their person when they’re around. The dark circles under your eyes, the scar on the side of your cheek, your choice of clothing, and- “did you cut your hair? I think it suits you this way…”
Oh, the things I noticed about the guys I liked in the past still make me feel like a total creep every time they come to mind.
They will do extroverted things with you
If an introvert wants to go to a party you said you’re attending when they literally refused the invitation a while ago, it’s a sign they want to be around you even though they will be getting out of their comfort zone doing that.
They would call you
Introverts really hate phone calls. So if yours often calls you, accept the magic sign. Don’t even question their feelings towards you after this one.
They would get possessive over you
Extroverts also get possessive. But for us, it really has something to do with us taking relationships very seriously. If we’re interested in someone, just be aware that we’re married to them in our imagination and we’re looking for a bigger house for the kids to play. So you can’t expect us not to react when someone gets in the way and shows signs that they want to get closer to the person sharing our inner world with us. there will be no mistaking the hard looks and the stone face from your introvert.
Look for the small unintentional acts of intimacy
Extroverts may regard kissing or holding hands in public as ways of displaying light intimacy and love. Introverts, in fact, show intimacy differently. They will naturally want to protect you. DIY something personal for you, or put their hands on the small of your back to guide you. These small things should be interpreted as hints your introvert is definitely interested in you.
They will treat you better than others
People sometimes claim introverts are standoffish and overall rude. That’s not true. it’s just that some of us may be socially awkward and we’re reserved. So in case, you notice your introvert treating you better than others, asking about your well-being, wanting to feed you, wanting you good just know for a fact that they like you.
Maybe it’s not about personality type. Or maybe it’s because I’m an introvert. But I can just feel it in my bones when someone is interested in me way before they say it. You’ll just be constantly aware you’re treated differently even if they try to hide it. Do extroverts feel the same way in situations like these?
We may be private and hard to read, but that’s what makes the process of being with an introvert worth it.
If you’re an extrovert, accept the differences between you two. Understand your introvert’s behavior and characteristics. These two go hand in hand.
When you do that, you’ll be introduced to a unique person, only you and a handful of others get to truly know ( Said the self proclaimed introvert!)
I’m hoping this post was helpful to you and gave you an idea of how introverts act when interested. But why do I feel like most people reading this aren’t going to be extroverts, but introverts looking for affirmation to their actions?